As I get older, it cracks me up to see the next generation of those learning to love and failing at it. What I am finding is that what used to be High School is now in Junior High and Upper Elementary age kids. It appears that the “lover” crowd is getting younger! My children are in this age-bracket and I fear for what they are faced with concerning dating pressure. Why must we push our children to be adults before it is time? Why must we see elementary-aged children on “dates”? I don’t mean play dates either.
Maybe I am old.
Maybe I am right.
We are hurrying our children to become something they are unprepared by God to be yet. Just because our hormone-filled foods are creating premature adolescence does not mean that they are ready. Our culture is broken. In fact, we cannot actually agree on what is even sexy. The Gap is presenting too-thin and Sports Illustrated (Not suitable for children…or men) presents too naked.
Where is the romance?
I fear we need to understand the definition of romance before we can actually discuss it. However, Webster and I do not agree. Romance, as defined today, deals either with something old and fantastical or new, fresh, and short-lived with hot passion! My sarcasm is really screaming right now that romance has gone the way of my youth and energy. Yet, I feel that romance in its pure form comes out of a developing relationship with God through Jesus Christ. The reason we have it all messed up is because we have removed God from the dating, marriage, passion, sex equation. When we are out of touch with God, temptations become very strong.
The exclusive dating is killing our kids since our culture has promised joy and happiness if we would just follow what our bodies are telling us. I know too many youth who now live with regrets and pain as a result of the fluttering nature of young love. Yet, so many see the revolving door that is their parent’s bedroom and simply follow suit.
Romance begins with God. As we develop a loving lasting relationship with Him we become equipped to do so with someone else for life. Starter marriages and Trial Marriages through cohabitation are not fulfilling. Romance does not have to be only the hot passion of youth but also the gentle smooth dance of two people whose lives have become intertwined. The severing of this kind of couple happens when one, or both, have moved away from God. How do we get it back?
Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever. 1 John 2:15-17
…and so will romance!