Raising Kids Like a Boss, Part 2


Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world,
but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.
Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

— Romans 12:2

I remember the day of birth for each of my children.  I remember holding them in my arms, counting fingers and toes.  I brushed their hair and kissed their heads.  Blondie and Brownie, their names for web purposes, are now 12 and 9.  Much has changed over these past few years.  My wife and I are working hard to do what we discussed yesterday.  However, they are dropped off 5 days a week for 8 hours each day into a culture that is necessary, but difficult.  My kids will go to public school because I want them to be salt and light and I don’t think that happens if I teach them at home.  The trade-off is that they are discovering new things at a rate faster than I would prefer.  They are being washed over by our culture right there in the classroom, the cafeteria, and especially the playground.

How can I help them not be conformed to this world?
How can I help them be transformed so they can know God’s Will and have the ability to do it?

1.  Do NOT let them choose for themselves.  I was standing in line at a fast-food joint the other day watching as a 2-year-old tried to make up their mind about what they would eat.  They were being allowed to choose for themselves what they would eat.  Left to her own devices, Brownie would eat Mac and Cheese every meal.  That is not happening on my watch. I know of one family who attended church regularly.  The father was a leader in the church.  However, they allowed their son to choose for himself about spiritual things.  They did not want to push him.  Now, his life is forever different as an ex-con.  Our kids are not prepared to choose for themselves.  We choose for them and then help them understand why the choice was made.  In this way, you shape them into the ability to make proper choices when they come to a point when you are not around.

2.  Do NOT believe the culture can raise them properly.  A quick review of our culture notes a downward spiral with relation to the Biblical ethic.  Consumerism is on the rise which see a disposable nature in everything.  Now we have starter homes and starter marriages.  Sex used to be inside marriage, now it is a group game on a Friday night.  Life used to be sacred.  Now Euthanasia is on the rise in new ways.  30 years ago boys had no confusion.  Now we have same-sex marriages in 14 states.  With open sexual relationships and now “eye-licking“, we are finding STD’s in eye infections.  Our culture cannot raise our kids properly.  We cannot turn them out and expect them whole when they return.

3.  Do NOT believe we are safe.  Within the Christian community, there has been a thought that everything will be OK.  The problem is that until 30 years ago, most people followed a similar moral and ethic.  Now we have 330 million people in our country and that many ethics and moral codes.  When there are no absolutes, everyone is right.  Of course, no one is right either.  1 out of 5 people consider themselves has having no religious affiliation.  Of those under 29, this rises to 1 of 3.  Our world has changed and we cannot sit back and think otherwise.

Of course, we could just throw this all out and let their friends help them make choices, television shape their morality, and bury our heads in the sand.  We could.  However, this would be the result:

After Joshua sent the people away, each of the tribes left to take possession of the land allotted to them.  And the Israelites served the Lord  throughout the lifetime of Joshua and the leaders who outlived him—those who had seen all the great things the Lord  had done for Israel. Joshua son of Nun, the servant of the Lord , died at the age of 110.  They buried him in the land he had been allocated, at Timnath-serah  in the hill country of Ephraim, north of Mount Gaash. After that generation died, another generation grew up who did not acknowledge the Lord  or remember the mighty things he had done for Israel. The Israelites did evil in the Lord ’s sight and served the images of Baal.  They abandoned the L ord , the God of their ancestors, who had brought them out of Egypt. They went after other gods, worshiping the gods of the people around them. And they angered the Lord .

— Judges 2


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