As a young boy, I watched my father. I learned how to be a gentleman from what I saw. One of the things that I saw consistently was that he held the door for others. Very rarely did I see him rush through and not let someone go first. Often there was no “Thank you”, but he still would do it. It was the right thing to do regardless of the outcome.
Not holding a door sounds immaterial in light of today’s issues of finances and family struggles. However, that simple act speaks volumes about one’s personality and self-involvement. Are we that important? Are we in that much of a hurry? Do other people not matter? Not holding a door seems trite, but it is important. Most people might not recognize anymore that there is a problem. We have long forgotten basic manners and considerations of others in our culture. Each follows their own set of rules and each can hold their own door. What happens, though, is this sense of individualism can lead to spiritual anarchy. If I believe that I am too important to hold the door for someone else how will I ever stop to let God act? There are times when each of us need to pause and let God act before we do something stupid.
32 Then David said to Abigail, “Praise to the Lord God of Israel, who sent you to meet me today! 33 Your discernment is blessed, and you are blessed. Today you kept me from participating in bloodshed and avenging myself by my own hand. 34 Otherwise, as surely as the Lord God of Israel lives, who prevented me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, Nabal wouldn’t have had any men left by morning light.” 35 Then David accepted what she had brought him and said, “Go home in peace. See, I have heard what you said and have granted your request.”
1 Samuel 25
David was going to avenge the rights and feelings of his men on his own. As good as David was, he had a penchant for battle. Distributing evil for evil or good for good was his joy! However, in this case it seems that God had another lesson for David to learn. Before he would become King, it was important that he realizes God is to be considered first. As Abigail comes and pleads her case before David, he has a choice to make. Will he rush through this door and go on about his business or would he pause and hold the door for God to go through first?
- Before going to the local loan facility, hold the door and let God go through first in your finances.
- Before going to the divorce attorney for advice, hold the door and let God go through first in your marriage.
- Before blowing up at work, hold the door for God to go through first in your relationships.
- Before killing yourself because you feel no one cares, hold the door and let God go through first in your heart.
- Before you finish the bottle, hold the door and let God go through first and bring you rest and peace.
How do we hold the door?
1. Consider God more important than yourself.
2. Pause and pray before making decisions.
3. Follow God through the door.
Later in this chapter we find that God took care of the issue in David’s life. Nabal died within days of this event. Sometimes, we simply need to hold the door and let God go through first!