Dating God

A good date doesn’t happen at the movies, dance clubs, or any place loud.  A good date, should you want to get to know them.  In our age of hook-ups and one-nighters, there is not much getting to know a person. We have minimized the emotional entanglement that sex brings.  The depression and lack of self-respect takes it toll sooner or later.  To talk about being emotionally involved with God is something of an anomaly.  In fact I believe it to more than irregular.  We just flat do not understand how to be in an intimate relationship with God because we have lost the art of intimacy altogether.


  1. a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group.
  2. a close association with or detailed knowledge or deep understanding of a place, subject, period of history, etc.: an intimacy with japan.

Do you have a close, familiar, loving personal relationship with God?  So many people simply answer

  • “I know God.”
  • “I love God.”
  • “I grew up in church.”

None of these answers reflect intimacy.  What is doe reflect is superficiality.  We know parts of God. We worship the God we have created through the cafeteria spirituality we enjoy.  We attend when convenient.  We give rather than tithe.  There is no intimacy.  It is like dating at the movies.  You enjoy the moment, but there is no knowledge of the other.  Who are they?  Where are they in life?  What do they believe?  What are their convictions?  These questions and discussions lead to intimacy.  Through the knowledge a love grows.  You can’t do that at the movies.  You can’t do that in club.  You can’t do that on hook-ups.

It takes time.

It takes talking.

It takes listening.

It takes interest.

Do you have a close, familiar, loving personal relationship with God?  Are you intimate with God?  He is with you.

16 “The Lord your God is commanding you this day to follow these statutes and ordinances. You must be careful to follow them with all your heart and all your soul. 17 Today you have affirmed that the Lord is your God and that you will walk in His ways, keep His statutes, commands, and ordinances, and obey Him. 18 And today the Lord has affirmed that you are His special people as He promised you, that you are to keep all His commands,

19 that He will elevate you to praise, fame, and glory above all the nations He has made, and that you will be a holy people to the Lord your God as He promised.”

Deuteronomy 26

Growing in intimacy with God involves engaging with His passion, His word, and Him.  A loving relationship involves two active participants who care more for the other than they do for themselves.  God has more than showed His position.  What is yours? Someone with whom you’re in love has your interest.  When it comes to God’s Word does He have your interest? Ask yourself four questions:

  1. Do I read His Word? This reading is not fast and furious.  My son will pick up a book and breeze through it for the enjoyment of reading the words.  Yet, he will be fuzzy on the storyline and characters.  He wasn’t always like this.  Once they starting counting points for awards for reading his comprehension waned a little. How often do we mindlessly read through the scripture simply because it is on the list for the day?  How often do we read scripture at all?
  2. Do I think about His Word? No matter when you read the Word, does it stick with you?  Do you think about it through the day?  Was there anything in it that struck you?  Do you stop in the middle and consider the implications of what you are reading?  Being involved with God on an intimate basis means more than just showing up for the date.  You have got to involve yourself in it also.  Have you ever found yourself on a date with someone who constantly checked their watch, texted, or spoke monosyllabically? Why would you repeat?
  3. Do I examine His Word? A good conversation makes you think.  Often I find myself researching after talking with my wife.  We have good talks.  We stretch and challenge each other.  Do you research God’s Word?  What does each book have to do with the other?  What is the overall purpose of the message?  How does the Old and New Testament fit together?  How does the Old Testament fit into our lives today?  What does that phrase mean?  You can’t believe Jesus just said what He did.  Do you research the culture and historical climate?
  4. Do I listen to His Word? You have two ears and one mouth.  Listening is far more important than speaking.  As I read God’s Word I want to listen to the Spirit speak.  Reading God’s word is a dialogue.  I read and listen and then ponder and respond.  I hear what God’s “says” and then respond.  I read and listen more.  I ponder and respond.  He shares His heart and I share mine.  Two people in love having a conversation.

How long has it been since you have had one of those with God?  Why not start right now?

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